- Nov 15, 2018
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I hear ya mate.Thanks @spurs mental for pointing me to this thread
So posting what I posted in the Conte thread
I'm trying to not give a shit about spurs but I just can't as I've supported them as early as I can remember and I'm now 37
But when we lose/don't win the people that I care about and care about me seem to be walking on eggshells as I'm visibly moody.
I don't shout or get violent but I just sulk and don't say anything for hours unless I'm out and have to interact. Obviously this affects my enjoyment on nights out. But after reflection I feel like why should I care its only a game and then I'm ok again until the next game we lose
I just wish I could follow the team but not let the outcome affect me but can't. I'm sure I'm not alone with this. My dad is also a massive fan and it affects him just as much to the point after a defeat we don't actually talk about it as we will just argue despite agreeing which is weird
This website is so good but I tend to be in autopilot and always log in and always go to the same threads and read the same posts over and over again just worded differently. I go on the Conte thread and Levy thread but everything that has been said has been said in every single way but I'm still drawn to it. I feel it helps as I'm not alone with these feelings but at the same time there's so much negativity and most of it within reason that it also hinders
But my question is have any of you been able to change your mind set to not give a shit and if you have what did you do?
Still very passionate about Spurs and want us to win and also play nice football but the last 3-4 seasons have ground me down big time like never before.
I think the pandemic + getting older + having a baby + some other personal things have all just put things in perspective, ultimately there unfortunately isn’t much I can do to effect or control how Tottenham play or the result they get therefore I just take it for what it is and if we play well and play nice football and win then I enjoy it, if predictably as of the last few years, we play boring and poorly and don’t get a good result then I just accept it and move onto something else rather than dwell on it.
Same as during matches, when I was younger I’d be getting frustrated with every tackle, every miss-placed pass or shot, every referee decision, every bit if opposition time wasting etc, them I got older and some serious life issues happened and I just suddenly just saw football and Tottenham so differently.
Now when I go to games and see mostly younger fans going apoplectic about our performance and decisions etc I just kind of feel a bit sorry for them as they’re really stressing themselves out a lot over something which on the whole they can’t really particularly control or influence.
I’ll always be a die hard Spurs fan but now whist the football we serve up is like it is I’m far more often ok to just record the game and watch it later or just catch up via MOTD whereas before I’d never have ever missed an in-person game or one live on TV.
Good luck buddy