Dear SC...

[Nocando]

I've got a dilemma.

Basically the gf has 'arranged' for us to go out this weekend and due to commitments on her side Saturday seems (to her) the only logical day to go out. However this obviously clashes with Spurs and a couple of other things that I wanted to do (of lesser importance), so I suggested going out another time...

[I'm mindful that this may not be just about going out and that this could in fact be one of those 'tests' that gf/bfs occasionally try (which I have no understanding of). I'm also mindful I have a totally irrational love of Tottenham and put it ahead of most things (inc family on occasions)]

So when I suggested alternative options the response was that she will go out on her own instead and we can go out 'another day' (girl talk for fuck off you nob, you're now in deep trouble). Obviously my usual trick to to play dumb and say "okay" and then deal with whatever consequences at a later date (hence winning on both fronts).

So Scers is this generally the correct approach? Does this, on the whole, work to the Spurs devotee's favour or do larger cracks appear?

And how do others usually play this struggle for power?

Any help greatly appreciated (as I know you are impartial and will say what is best for the good of the universe)

Kindest Regards

 

[Monkey boy]

Is she fit? Could you do better? Depending on those answers you know deep down what to do. Take it from me though, girlfriends come and go but THFC will be with you forever (even if you get days where you wish they wouldn't be). Over the years I've passed up days out that would get me brownie points only to go on to see us play shit and lose and then you wonder why the fcuk you did that? My advice is to go out with the GF but make sure you have a phone signal to check in with SC. You can usually tell how the match is playing out within 5 posts as we're either world beaters or certain for relegation next season.

 

[beats1]

Thanks for that , for some fucked up reason I thought we were playing on Sunday at 2pm

 

[Hoddle&Waddle]

I find an expensive surprise gift always goes down well in these situations.

 

[WestBelfast Spurs]

dude take the hit and watch Spurs, cause from here on in fuck all you do will be right

 

[Nocando]

Thanks for that , for some fucked up reason I thought we were playing on Sunday at 2pm

Glad this at least helped in some way. I wish we were playing on Sunday though.

 

[Sum Monsterism]

grow some balls, if she moans blindside her by going batshit mental.

or eat her lipstick and pretend you've lost your mind.

 

[Welshiespursboyo]

You need to stand your ground now or she will forever trample your hopes and dreams.

 

[WestBelfast Spurs]

if she promises anal, that's a game changer!!

 

[Wick3d]

Do what you want, it's not like she doesn't.

 

[beats1]

Glad this at least helped in some way. I wish we were playing on Sunday though.

Do you love her and one day want to marry, if yes, just do what she wants, find a download and pretend you are watching it live without trying to read the scores

be warned though, that download will probably have the score on it

P.s. If was me I would make her think that she should let me watch it, thats answer to getting what you want in a relationship by let think they are in control or winning

 

[Nocando]

P.s. If was me I would make her think that she should let me watch it, thats answer to getting what you want in a relationship by let think they are in control or winning

Yeah that's a good point, because that's the trick she obviously has tried to use on me so if I could turn it round that would be sweet.

I'm not good with all this psychology stuff as I have historically just done what I wanted without caring that much and being diplomatic hasn't worked so far. As I do care a bit more these days I'm having to up my game and develop certain areas (not that one though ), so any examples of what lines I could use to shift the guilt onto her would be warmly received.

 

[Blackcanary]

Like wizards, we women are subtle and quick to anger.

I'd suggest making the effort to actually arrange your day out that you've rearranged so she knows you're not just using Spurs as a cover to avoid spending time with her (and let her decide the plans so you appear very generous, reasonable and eager to make things up to her), and you being proactive on that front will diffuse any anger on her part over you crying off your plans.

 

[Nocando]

Like wizards, we women are subtle and quick to anger.

I'd suggest making the effort to actually arrange your day out that you've rearranged so she knows you're not just using Spurs as a cover to avoid spending time with her (and let her decide the plans so you appear very generous, reasonable and eager to make things up to her), and you being proactive on that front will diffuse any anger on her part over you crying off your plans.

Yeah I tried that (I never mentioned Spurs at all) but she saw straight through it (were dealing with an intelligent one here) and referred to it when I was trying to be diplomatic by suggesting alternative options.

 

[SpunkyBackpack]

What's a girlfriend?

 

[Sum Monsterism]

Like wizards, we women are subtle and quick to anger prone to getting hairy as we get older, being very standoffish, enslave men with the promise of forbidden fruits...

 

[Blackcanary]

Yeah I tried that (I never mentioned Spurs at all) but she saw straight through it (were dealing with an intelligent one here) and referred to it when I was trying to be diplomatic by suggesting alternative options.

I'd just be truthful and say it is a Spurs thing - She'll either laugh at you or she'll be annoyed, but either way you'll have established that Spurs are important and won't have to keep fighting the same battles. And if she's smart she'll take full advantage of you being prepared to let her get her own way....

I have to try and plan things with my boyfriend around our matches AND Arse matches - that's a logistical nightmare!

 

[Nocando]

I'd just be truthful and say it is a Spurs thing - She'll either laugh at you or she'll be annoyed, but either way you'll have established that Spurs are important and won't have to keep fighting the same battles. And if she's smart she'll take full advantage of you being prepared to let her get her own way....

I have to try and plan things with my boyfriend around our matches AND Arse matches - that's a logistical nightmare!

You planning things around his Arse....matches is just damn right unreasonable.

 

[OneHotspur1988]

You're fucked.

 

[EastLondonYid]

I find an expensive surprise gift always goes down well in these situations.

No no wrong advice ...how about she goes down for an expensive gift...